Here’s an upside to break-ups: it makes you realise invaluable things about relationships in general. Or at least that’s what happens with me: I’m learning A LOT.
I have known for a long time now that relationship has nothing to do with any of “the other half”, “the only one” or “happily ever after” kind of bullshit. If you so very wish, you can believe all those things about love, but leave the relationship out of it. Love by definition is (or at least should be) free and unconditional, but relationships aren’t. And they were never meant to be. (I wrote about it here.)
What have become crystal clear to me is that every relationship is a tripartite system, equally composed of you, your partner (as two fully independent beings) and something that you are consciously choosing to build and share together. Something that will function, change and breathe on its own, even though it’s been constructed from bits and pieces of the other two components.
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