Emotions are ought to be felt

Boys don’t cry and girls are hysterical: two notions we all grow up with that inevitably mess up our relationships with emotions. We subconsciously learn it’s immature, silly, childish or irrational to show emotions, but mature, strong and rational to suppress them. Emotions are commonly believed to stand in the way of reason: they blur the vision.

Don’t be so dramatic. Man up. Calm down. You’re overreacting. Be an adult about this.

Deep down I have always felt that it’s loads of crap. There is no such thing as “bad” emotion – all emotions are equally important, valid and needed. And contrary to popular belief, heart does not defy the reason – giving up on either leads to nothing but misery. We’ve all seen it, possibly even lived through some version of it. Those are the fattest lies in the adulthood book.

Late Bloomer

Once in a while I like to look through my old pictures. Of which, as an amateur photographer, I have a real abundance. It’s one of my main aids in the battle against darker times. Works wonders when crippling doubts are driving me mad. They put things in perspective.

I used to think I’ve done everything in my life either wrong or way too late. To be totally honest, some part of me is still wrestling with that thought.